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Hiii. I think know that Love is deep, and so I wrote out what I believe is the actual meaning of Love. It is a very long read, as I went ahead to give the kind of life to cultivate in any season of your romantic life.
I love LOVE, forgettt.
I know it's February the 14th, so of course I'm writing you for the first time in February 2024, because I want to chip in my opinion on love, and relationships.
I'm not a relationship coach, but don't be shocked if you hear me talking about love, romance, and whatnot, because I see a lot of messes that I would love to make messages out of. Presently, let's take it one step at a time. Okayyy?
Okayed.
WHAT IS LOVE?
Christ died for us because He loves us, so you know that love is more than a feeling, or emotion.
Love to me, is deep. It goes beyond telling some friend 'I love you' on his birthday or her birthday. It goes beyond buying and giving gifts.
Love to me, is more DIVINE, than SUPERFICIAL, and is perfectly defined in 1 Corinthians 13:
To me, love is perfectly defined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
I believe the Bible has so much of life principles to abide by, that if you do not read or believe in the words, you will be frustrated on this journey called LIFE.
The Bible passage in the images above is in the New King James Version, and the Message Version, to enhance comprehension.
The passage does not say love is perfect, but it says how perfect love could be if you; are kind, patient, understanding, believe the good in another, have the right mindset, are not self-centered, do not get angered easily, are not proud, do not push blames on another, push another to grow, are teachable, and you do not think less of another.
I get that you love a person because of so many things you have seen and felt. I meannn, people love for different reasons. It might even be the voice, or the legs, or the hands, or the face, or the values, or the level of intelligence, or the mindset, or the skills, that got you 'falling.' It could even be that, in your words, God told you that the person is your wife or your husband, and you start developing love.
I want you to know that love is beyond feelings and emotions. Totally beyond it, and you need to get it into your head. Let it sink.
If love was just about feelings, we would not have the number of divorces we have today. We would not even have people who say God told them to be together, end up fighting every day. We would even have them be all mushy all second.
It takes understanding humans to be together.
It takes those in alignment to be together.
It takes persons who desire the best out of themselves to be together.
It takes supportive humans to build a life together.
It takes people who are ready to join their hands to be committed and to stay committed to each other, despite the odds, to be able to build a life.
It takes people who are ready to grow together to build a home.
It takes people who are ready to be transparent with each other to sustain a 'ship.'
And, this relates to friendships. You can not say you love your friend if you do not believe in your friend. You do not love solely because of your selfish reasons.
Love is deep.
In the next few words, I get to give few tips on the kind of life that should be cultivated in any facet of romantic relationship.
FOR THE SINGLES
I know you can not wait to lay your head on the one's shoulders, so you think crying and going in and out of relationships would be the solution.
I know how you envy other couples and you wish your own will be the same.
I know how depressed and frustrated you are at how you are yet to be with a particular someone.
I know, but really, you should not get yourself worked up over this. You are single for a reason, and there's actually nothing wrong with being single (Don't overthink the statement, you know what I mean).
There are so many things you should be doing:
1. Find purpose.
2. Gain clarity on your journey.
3. Pray for your unborn children and learn more about them before they are even born. God goes as far as telling the weight, the gender, the name, and the purpose of an unborn child.
4. Learn you, and help you. A depressed person can not help another depressed person, so learn who you are and are not, and then heal from injuries, else you hurt another.
5. Concentrate on pleasing the Lord, as you are yet to have more earthly burdens, than if married.
If you are worried that age is no longer smiling at you, and it's getting too late, I want you to know that it's never too late on God's plan, He will never let you down if you believe in him.
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| I love Iman and Stephon Alford's love story, they called it #GodRemembered, because of the way God did it for them. So, it's not too late for you. God is working things out for your good, but are you willing to settle to listen? Let not the noises and voices on the outside stop you from hearing who is on the inside. |
FOR THOSE IN A RELATIONSHIP
I would not want to break your relationships, but if it would take a broken relationship for you to grow, so be it.
Allow me break this section into two parts; the part that speaks to you, if you are just about stepping into a relationship, and the part that speaks to you, if you are already in one. I will call the parts BEFORE and DURING.
BEFORE.
I love Pastor Toure Roberts' five must-haves before saying, 'I do'. They are:
1. Chemistry
2. Connection
3. Wholeness
4. Divine confirmation
5. Purpose
To understand these tips better, you can read his book on, 'Wholeness: Winning In Life From The Inside Out' or listen to him speak on '5 Keys To Identifying Your Soulmate' on YouTube.
I very much would love for you to build a strong friendship before you start a journey unto marriage. It's a very important phase.
DURING.
Being in a relationship is not an access to the bedroom. It's not an access to sending nudes, and sexting. There are so many things you should be doing together, but none of these. It does not matter if you are in a long or short-distance relationship.
You don't have to use the hours asking what colour of clothes they wear, or shoes they wear, or if they've eaten when you should build friendship, learn each other, plan your marriage, values alignment, talk about everything and anything, not leaving anything out, go for counseling, pray for your home, learn the purpose of your journey. It's a time to be purposeful and valuable.
FOR THE MARRIED
Congratulations! The steps you take towards keeping your spark alive, is to respect each other, see the good in each other, never see yourselves finish, go out on dates, or vacations, don't allow the voices on the outside rule your home, allow the three-in-one(the Holy Spirit) to be in your midst, be understanding, be trusting, never shift blames, learn to communicate, learn to forgive, to mention but a few.
What do you think of these. Do you have a different opinion on what I have shared, please feel free to put it down in the comment section. Thank you.
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All images are gotten from pexels.com, except for the Alfords' which was gotten from their Instagram page.
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